Nothing I’m about to say is going to be a surprise to you. Honestly, you’ve heard (or read) it all before, or at least I know I have, but what I hope to accomplish through this post is to say it in a way that legitimately resonates with you….
Please, please, please take this to heart:
You need to stop reading all of the bullsh*t online articles that are trying to tell you how to change, act, and live to become more desirable to somebody else.
Because I couldn’t fall asleep, I grabbed my phone and opened up my Facebook app. I only scrolled down for a few minutes and in those few minutes, I saw two articles that upset me –
“40 People on the Worst Trait a Significant Other Can Have”
“23 Little Things that Let You Know You’re in the Right Relationship”
This upset me because you know what? Plain and simple – Life is hard enough as it is.
When we’re constantly bombarded by “advice” like this written by “experts,” we start to get this skewed perspective of ourselves and of life in general.
Don’t worry yourself with what other people think is right, wrong, desirable, or undesirable.Don’t second guess your gut even if you see people leaving comments like, “ZOMG YOU’RE RIGHT! This is SO me!”
This advice might resonate with them.
It doesn’t have to resonate with you.
There’s always something telling us that we’re not as skinny as that model, we’re not as happy as this celebrity who was just given expensive diamond jewelry, or as ______ as _________.
I decided then and there that I needed to unlike that Facebook page and I want to challenge you to do the same. You have the power to accept this “advice” OR you can say, “You know what? I’m happy. I’m healthy. I’m not perfect and thank goodness for that.”
You have the power to close the magazine, unlike the social network, or separate yourself from whatever isn’t filling your life with positivity.
The thing to remember is that people are going to keep writing these articles; however, once you realize that these sources don’t define you, your life, or your happiness then you can rid yourself that judgmental negativity.
You have the power to decide for yourself if you’re in the right relationship.
You have the power to decide that you’re happy with your life.
You have the power to love yourself despite whether some article thinks your quirks or traits are undesirable.
You don’t need to read 400 words written by a stranger to decide whether or not you’re living your life right.
It’s simple – You have the power to choose what you put into your eyeballs and into your head. Stop reading articles that make you feel like you’re not good enough, successful enough, or pretty enough. Instead of reading this judgmental crapolla written by people you’ll never meet, take a minute to appreciate your quirks, your uniqueness, your freckles and those laugh lines. If you’re in a relationship and you’re happy, then be happy and stop trying to look for faults. If you ‘re in one and you don’t want to be anymore, get out.
Forget these “advice” columns and do me this one favor – Embrace who you are, learn to love that person, and do what makes you happy ❤