So, I truly believe this post should probably be titled, “Things I’m Afraid to Tell you Pt. 3″ but I’m afraid that 3 parts of one type of post is a little excessive ;)
With that being said, there’s no good way to jump into this post so I’m just going to commit and do it…
A little while ago, I was rejected by someone I was starting to have feelings for. We had gone out a few times, exchanged an obscene amount of texts messages, etc.
Things were great until they weren’t anymore.
It happened in a text message that was little more than the sentence, “You didn’t do anything wrong, I guess I just don’t feel it like I was there for a little while.”
Talk about a kick in the face.
I wanted to scream, yell, and swear that he didn’t know me enough to decide that he was done with this situation; however, I didn’t. My pride was well enough in tact not to do that. I said, “While I’m bummed out, I appreciate your honesty. Best of luck”
Approximately .5 seconds after I sent him the message, I sent my best girlfriends a text that said something along the lines of, “Guys are the worst. I hate everything.” ;)
A dear friend of mine immediately invited me out to the local watering hole and wouldn’t take, “Nah, I’m fine. Really.” for an answer. I suppose that’s why she’s a dear friend, eh?
After a bit of complaining/whining, she finally butted into my mutterings and made things painfully clear for me.
She reminded me that while my “life resume” was wonderful, it meant nothing if I didn’t begin to take stock in the things that truly matter.
Now, I know. That sounds silly but hear me out…
I’ll admit that I’ve accomplished more before 30 than I thought I could’ve in the entirety of my life; however when I think of what I’ve done, I tick off a list of things that would “look good” when talking to a potential employer.
Accomplishments and goals are extremely important but they’re not the only thing that matters in life. What matters is your self-worth.
To me, realizing this self-worth means that when things fall apart, you’re able to say it wasn’t you. It wasn’t because you weren’t smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough, ________ enough.
Your self-worth is TRULY self-worth when you can say, “Yes, _____ happened and it wasn’t mean to work but it wasn’t because I was any less of a person.”
It’s when everything is stripped away and/or you’ve been rejected by someone that you wonder, “Was it me? Was I not _____ or ____ or _____?”
It doesn’t matter what’s on that life resume of yours. What matters is what you think of yourself when the times get tough. It’s knowing that while you accomplished a lot it’s even more important that you realize you are a lot.
This shift in mentality makes all the difference. Truly believe that you’re great in this moment, despite what you’ve accomplished in the past.
Really remind yourself of who you are when your “life resume” is stripped away. Don’t define yourself by your grades, your career, or the person you love.
Define yourself by who you are when nobody else is around. Define yourself by the things you’ve done when a friend is in need. Define yourself by the actions you take when you see someone do something that’s not appropriate.
When you’re hurt or upset, remind yourself of your self worth. Don’t let them knock you down or make you feel anything less than wonderful.
You’re wonderful, beautiful, and perfect.